A friend of mine saw this on a T-shirt. So very true. Anais Nin said something similar, “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.”
Following similar threads from previous posts (I get stuck on themes in case you couldn’t tell) our perception creates our reality. This is not to say that we can literally think things into or out of existence; no, it is much more subtle than that. What we pay attention to we experience. We can be aware of many things but our attention is on one thing. Sorry if this invalidates the multi-taskers out there… You’re still paying attention to just one thing at a time but you switch your attention around very quickly. I would suggest that “multi-tasking” is the acceptable version of attention deficit disorder.
As I have said before, the Law of Inertia applies: An object at rest… and so on. The object in motion is our pattern, our perception of “what is.” But it ain’t necessarily so. Mark Twain said “Many a small thing has been made large by the right kind of advertising.” He also said (and probably more germane to the point) “It ain’t what you know that gets you into trouble. It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so.”
So as we cling to our ideas we create a reality that is reflective of those ideas and project that reality into the future. Everything that has come before informs what is and what will be. And that’s fine. Until we buy our own nonsense (see the previous post on bullshit) and that small thing has been spun and enhanced, “wait, there’s more!” We have added the energy of our attention to something or someone that is simply unworthy of it and now there exists yet another drain on our various energies, most notably our emotional energy. And it all comes about from believing something that just ain’t so.
Thoughtfully question your assumptions. Question your beliefs. In time you may learn to laugh at yourself and how superficial your opinions used to be. Minimize your expectations: “An expectation is nothing more than a premeditated resentment” (?) The expectation is evidence of our pattern projecting into the future. This may be perfectly reasonable but the practice perpetuates indulging in the unreasonable, until you can’t tell the difference.